Tuesday, June 28, 2016

What It's About

As of today we have been officially waiting for 17 months!

This past month we have been busy! We started going to a new church and a community group, I finished school, we went on vacation (we went to TN and it was awesome!), and I started selling crafts to help support our adoption. If you want to check those out you can visit my etsy shop: etsy.com/shop/waitingquietly. I make homemade personalized pillows & bags, and cute crochet animals. Message me if you have questions or want anything! Our goal is to raise the $6,000 remaining for our placement fee. If you can, we also have a donate button to the right of this that goes to our adoption paypal account. 

We have recently met a few good friends who have either adopted, or are in the process. It is so nice to have other people we know in this thing with us! The adoption community is literally the best. When you find someone else who "gets it" you hold on to them TIGHT. Hearing others' stories, and answering questions has made me think a lot about our adoption process, what we have learned, and why we are doing this. Why we are putting ourselves through torture month after month. And I realized, it is not about me. I am not doing this just for myself. Of course, we add to our family, and that is why we started this process, but it has become so much more than that. It is about the child, and his or her first family. It is about helping our child's first mother feel supported, cared for, and loved. It is about us dealing with our grief of infertility and the grief of the first mother placing her child with us. It is about the joy of us receiving that child, and the relief for the first mother knowing her child will be taken care of in a way she couldn't provide. It will be about us becoming her family, and her becoming our family. It will be answering hard questions our child asks, and letting him or her ask the first mother those questions. It will be about us helping our child recover from the trauma of leaving his or her first mother - and any trauma experienced in the womb, and helping the first mother recover from the same trauma. When I think about this, the wait gets a little less burdensome. We are not just waiting for a baby to grow our family. We are waiting for the right family to find us so we can be there to support them. It makes the money seem less daunting, I would give any amount of money to be in this symbiotic relationship, and be able to support someone in such a big way. 

So, as much as I want a baby and I want to grow my family, I want the right family to find us more than anything. I want the right family to find us so we can support them, be there for them, and carry out this mission that we were so clearly called to by God. We will wait for that as long as God calls us to.

Someone gave me this verse today and I want to share it with you: 
Habakkuk 2:3 - But these things I plan won't happen right away. Slowly, steadily, surely, the time approaches when the vision will be fulfilled. If it seems slow, do not despair, for these things will surely come to a pass. Just be patient! It will not be late, not by a single day.


  1. I had that verse taped to my wall for forever!! :)

  2. Habakkuk 3:17-18 is one of my favourites in this wait!