Wednesday, March 22, 2017

3 month update

It's been a while since I posted anything! In some ways so much has happened and in other ways everything is the same. So, just an update on our adoption - Adrian is 3 months old, we have had 1/3 post placement visits, with 1 tonight (In Virginia, you are required to have 3 post placement visits with your social worker before the baby is 6 months old, and THEN at 6 months old you can apply for the adoption to be finalized). So, we are still a bit away from finalization. We have a court date next month to work through the other legal stuff that came up with this adoption, after that we will be in the clear to adopt Adrian and apply for finalization in 3 months.

Adrian is the best. He loves to laugh and smile. He loves to eat and rock in his chair or his rock n' play. He likes the car and going for walks. He does not love tummy time or being in his car seat if he is not moving.

We are coming up on a big change for us, Adrian is going to day care part time next week, and then full time the week after as I am going back to work. I am ready to go back to work and I'm not. I'm ready for the routine, I miss my students, my friends and my job. I'm excited for Adrian to go to daycare, to learn to meet other babies, and to learn to be independent from us some, so he can grow up to be independent. I know, without a doubt, that working is what is best for me and my family. But it will definitely be an adjustment. I'm going back to work for the last 6ish weeks of school - so a new teacher, new students, and the last 6 weeks of school where the kids are already checked out - it will be challenging!

As a mom, I have learned that I do not have as much patience as I wish I had - especially at 3 am. I know right, I waited 2 years for this baby and still haven't perfected patience. I have learned that sleep is not as necessary as I thought/wish it was. I have learned that I need to lean on Jesus more than ever. I have to make a thousand decisions a day and I have no idea if I'm making the right ones. I have to make sure I get things done, even with a screaming, crying, or cuddly baby. I'm convinced that Matthew 11:28 was written for moms ( Come to me all who are weary and heavy burdened, and I will give you rest). I have learned that I have to parent in a way that works for me and not for anyone else, despite other people's opinions.

Being a mom is the hardest, but most rewarding adventure I've been on. I am so blessed to be able to call Adrian my son. So far, there are only a couple of differences about being an "adoptive" mom (that's in quotes because I believe all moms are just moms, no matter how it came to them). We have a lot more legal blah to deal with. I have to make sure I keep up our blog for Adrian's birth mother, and send her updates regularly - not that this is hard, I just have to make sure I remember. I wonder a lot about how we will answer his questions and deal with his emotions about being adopted, while trying to make sure he knows we love him and that he is part of our family, and part of his biological family. But, really, I'm just a mom - I feed Adrian, love him, cuddle him, change his diapers, play with him - just like any other mom.

So, I know this post is kind of scattered - blame it on the baby brain, I promise one day I will post more pointed posts again, but for now this is an update and this is what is going on.

Thanks for reading!
 With love,
Kristen